I spent today trying to forget the issue of my Singlesnet paramour, Xander, and his terribly unusual name. “I’ll just go shopping!” I said. That usually fixes things. Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: coincidences, horrible names, singlesnet, xander
Yesterday I promised you I’d give you details about my online date. Well, as promised, I’m going to. He’s pretty great. He has the deepest eyes and really cool hair (it looked very springy!). We had so much fun during our conversation and even got a chance to sing part of an aria (yes, I know, we are both losers). But there’s a bit of a problem. My boy’s name…. Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: freak, lord of the rings, singlesnet, xander
My dear readers, you may remember that last night I finally met up with my operatic poser. We sat down and got glasses of water. I sipped mine and he started asking me questions about my day. No way mister. We’re getting straight to the interrogation.
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Tags: honesty, opera, profiles, singlesnet
Finally I’ll be meeting this boy in person (hold your applause and keep your flowers- we’ll save them for when the date is over). We’re going out to Bombay Indian Restaurant- is that a good signal that this first date won’t become a sleepover? But, even better than the date is the fact that I have a plan- I’m going to test him!
Tags: bombay indian, jaccuse, lying online, opera, pavoratti, singlesnet
Tags: eharmony, leap year, married, match, online dating news, singlesnet, vacation
Is this guy telling the truth? The other day I was checking out his profile and, you may remember, I suspected he copied my profile. So I messaged him back and said “J’Accuse”- don’t worry, I explained what I accused him of. Then, today he wrote back. Yikes. He didn’t sound happy. Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: jaccuse, mistakes, singlesnet, spinning heads
I’m not a detective (see the fact that I failed to detect a barista’s straightness). But last night I got a message from someone who was more than a little suspicious. The message was fine- cute, funny, all that. But then I looked at the person’s profile (fyi, I rate the picture a 7.6). On their profile, they had some interesting…interests… Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: 7.6, B3, gay dating, jaccuse, profiles, singlesnet
The answer is yes! I’ll tell it to you the same way I told my friend last night (as we dined at La Palma- absolutely delicious, but Mexican food never prepares you for dating). Anyway, you may remember that yesterday I was trying to decide if online dating in public was fantastic or sketchtastic. In the meantime, a Beautiful Bearded Barista (B3) was walking around, daring to catch me. So guess what happened? Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: B3, gay dating, La Palma, singlesnet, starbucks
I’m back at another coffee shop (this time, it’s not a very interesting one). And I seem to have a question. I realized that I wouldn’t have time to go online today, except for now, while I’m at the ‘bucks. But what do you think? Is it ok to online date in public? Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: dilemmas, singlesnet, starbucks
So I found the most amazing picture of myself (and yes, it complies with The Brain’s online dating profile tips). Like, imagine a model. Now imagine them looking twice as hot and you’ve got this pic. I look good- shadow’s right, lighting’s right. Of course I always look good. So naturally I want to upload it as my profile pic. There’s just one problem… Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: grapefruit eyes, photo, singlesnet
I know I’m supposed to be doing my little introduction, but first can I just tell you something? I am sitting at this coffee shop (ok, “tea lounge“) and there’s a guy sitting next to me. He’s a surfer boy- long blonde hair, great shoulders, you know, the usual torture.
But every once in a while, I see him reach up and pick his ear. Is that ok? Why is nose-picking so bad, but all the straight boys think that they can dig in their ear without anybody noticing? Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: ear picking is a sin, gay, introductions, match, singlesnet, tea lounge, true
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The Service: Singlesnet.com (Go There Now)
The Deal: Speedy and sexy, Singlesnet wants to help you find a date as quickly as possible. The site is proud of its 30 second registration process and equally speedy compatibility test. With that in mind, you’ll spend less time answering questions and more time finding great dates.
Singlesnet’s Mission: Singlesnet is simple- simple to register and simple to use. The site even has a simple goal- to get you a date. Millions of diverse members help make Singlesnet a quick place to find a special someone and get ready to meet them. Flexible trials make it easy to explore.
Even though Singlesnet is easy to start using, that doesn’t mean it’s the wild west- the short compatibility test you’ll take helps to weed out the people you don’t want (and throw in the good ones). You can search by zip code, compatibility, or combine the two to find a date that’s perfectly close and perfectly suited for you. The wide reach and passionate user base helps make Singlesnet a vibrant community, wherever you’re located.
Who It’s For: Singlesnet is open to everyone. Anyone looking for Gay dating, Lesbian dating, Asian dating, Black dating, Hispanic dating, a fun night out, a hot hookup, or a new love will find it on Singlesnet.com. With millions of members, everyone leaves happy.
The Price: Singlesnet loves to build its community, so you’ll be free to contact members, receive and read e-mails from members, reply to the e-mails, create your own hot profile, and even use their compatibility technology. If that’s not enough for you, you’ll be able to browse through Singlesnet listings for free and see your future dates.
The Bottom Line: Singlesnet is a great way to dive into online dating-it’s easy to get started, but it’s fun, useful, and addictive enough that you won’t want to stop anytime soon.
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Online Dating: Dive Right In
Remember the first time you went off the high dive? You thought everyone was watching you as you stood there, your toes gripping the edge of the board, trying to decide whether or not to take the plunge. Well, we know that online dating can be a similar situation. And we’re here to tell you to dive right in! But first, we’d like to teach you how to swim in the online dating pool.
Choosing the Right Online Dating Service
There’s a wide range of different services that cater to your personality and goals- Match, eHarmony, OKCupid, Singlesnet, True, and yes, AdultFriendFinder all offer different things for their users (to find the right one, we recommend checking out our own online dating reviews). Learn more about the possibilities and give a new site a try. In fact, most of these services provide free trials, and some like OKCupid are always free. These services want you to dip a toe in the water, so go ahead, sign up, and find the ones that are right for you.
Personality Matching: How You Find Potential Dates
Obviously, each site is different- eHarmony will give you a complex compatibility test, while Singlesnet will get you signed up withing 30 seconds (here’s our primer on online dating questionnaires). But, basically, all the sites mash up the hard facts with your unique personality. You’ll be shown people who are your preferred age, gender, and location no matter what. Then it gets interesting. Personality matching will help pair you with the type of person that you might have fun with. It’s both a science and an art- and it’s up to you to experiment and find the person that works for you.
My Profile: Making A Great First Impression
When you’re online, you’ll create a representation of yourself (check out our tips for creating a great online dating profile). It’s a rundown of what you’re like, who you are, and who you’re looking for. Potential dates will look at it to get a feel for your personality and to see if you’re a Match. It’s important to keep your profile fun, flirty, and most importantly, honest. This is your first impression for a potential date, so you want it to be an honest one.
Messaging: What’s a Wink?
Each dating site will provide a mix of different ways to start flirting. Some use “winks”, others have live chatting, and some even have video. The differences between services aren’t important, however- the key thing to remember is that you’re here to flirt and have fun. Messaging is a way to reach out and show a new person how cool you are- have fun doing it!
There are a couple of tips to remember as you get started. First, keep it casual- messaging too much could be too aggressive for potential dates. So always have a laid back approach to your replies (just as you would with a phone call). Secondly, be careful with your real contact information (e-mail, phone, etc). You should give that info out eventually, but don’t open with it- you have to make sure you’re speaking to a cool, safe person first (You can also check out our tips to read more about how to learn to flirt online).
That First Cup of Coffee: Meeting In the Real World
If there are sparks, you’ll want to leave the keyboard for your first real date.
How do you set up the big first date? Simple- just ask. Once you determine a time for you and your date to meet, you’ll be set. A public place is best for that first interlude. Meet and then, once you’ve gotten to know the person better, decide where to go from there. You’re well on your way to finding a new relationship.
The Rest of It: What To Do Now?
After that first date, it’s all up to you. You may want to reunite for a second date, find a new person, or even try a different service. Whatever you do, you’ve done the hardest part- you’ve jumped off the high dive. And you can go ahead and admit it- now that you’ve taken the plunge, it feels pretty good.
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Getting Started With The Test
So- remember the SAT? Well, there’s another test you can take that’s even more important to your future- and it doesn’t require you find the hypotenuse of a triangle. It’s the Online Dating Questionnaire. Every service has them- from comprehensive surveys at eHarmony, to scientific tests at Match, to flirty quizzes at OKCupid, to short shots at Singlesnet, online dating questionnaires are frequently requirements for admission. But just like the SAT, there are a few tricks to succeeding in the online world. So get out your number 2 pencil and start learning.
Take Your Time
Remember how bad it is to rush through the SAT? Well, it’s the same with online dating questionnaires. If you go through too quickly, you might answer poorly. Most questionnaires allow you to “save your progress”. Make sure to do this and take a walk, have a snack, or even finish the next day. That’s one advantage to these questionnaires- unlike the SAT, you’ve got all the time in the world to finish.
Answer For Who You Are, Not Who You Want To Be
Cheating. It’s tempting everywhere, and on online dating questionnaires it’s especially easy. If you see a question about your social behavior, body type, or even just your favorite movies, you’ll be tempted to put down a white lie (of course, you may actually be outgoing, incredibly athletic, and love only French films. In that case, give us your phone number.).
White lies may be tempting, but it’s important to remember that honesty is the best policy. Many of the questionnaires are carefully calibrated to learn about who you are (eHarmony even has a laboratory!). Answering dishonestly may be tempting, but in the end, you won’t be lying to a website. You will have misled your date. The best way for a new person to discover why you’re great is to admit it to yourself, and show it by telling the truth.
It’s About You, Not Them
A similar temptation is to answer the questionnaire to try to snag the type of person you want. If it were the SAT, you’d be peeking at the answers of your neighbor, trying to figure out what they put down. Of course, on the SAT that doesn’t work- questions and answers have different orders for different people. Online dating questionnaires are just as complex.
Let’s say you put that you are an “outgoing go-getter” because you want to date someone who is. Well, dating services know enough about personalities that you’ll probably be matched with a recessive personality instead of an alpha male or female. By faking the answer, you’ll get the opposite of what you want! Dating companies spend millions of dollars researching personalities and love (True even has a Psychology Today endorsement). That investment is the reason you’re going to them in the first place- so trust them to get it right.
Before You Turn in Your Answers…
Remember to have fun! That’s another difference between online dating questionnaires and the SATs. Questionnaires help you to learn more about your personality, your quirks, and all the things that make you an amazing person. The SATs may help you get into a good college. But if you answer carefully, honestly, and clearly, a dating questionnaire can help you get into a good relationship- and that’s not a bad result for a single test.
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