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Alan Actually Speaks

Cindy Does Hollywood — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 20:09:29 +0000

I’ve been dealing with my curiosity about Alan all too long. Fortunately, I don’t have to do it any longer. When I checked AdultFriendFinder today, I found that he’d written me a note.

So- you want to know what makes me tick? Tick tock. If you’re curious, meet me at Whiskey Bar. 9 PM. 2nite.

I wrote him that I was far away from there and it would be a hassle to drive there.

He wrote back two words:

Tick tock.

This is infuriating! What is he doing, and why is he acting like this? I haven’t cared what a man did in years. But now I’m going to be making a long drive just to figure this one out.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, alan, mysterious, whiskey

Finding Out What Alan Wants

Cindy Does Hollywood — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 18:38:35 +0000

When I woke up this morning (alone), I started thinking about Alan again. Why hadn’t he joined in with Margo and I? Didn’t it look fun enough for him? Didn’t I look good enough for him? I stood in front of the mirror and pinched the fat on my hips. I turned around. I looked good enough…

So I went on the computer. I couldn’t stand it any longer. Why had he even been in the room if he wasn’t going to enjoy it? I wished I’d been uncomfortable with it, so I could at least be mad at him for liking to watch. But I was just curious, which was even worse.

After a detour to look at some new boys and girls on AdultFriendFinder (have I told you I love tattoos?), I sent him a message.

I want to see you. We need to talk about what happened. Why did you act that way?

I pressed Send. We’ll see what he writes back- assuming he doesn’t just sit in silence…

Tags: adultfriendfinder, alan, MAD, margo

Sitting Back and Watching

Cindy Does Hollywood — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 18:39:10 +0000

Hmm. Interesting. I thought that when Alan and Margo and I set ground rules, it meant that we’d all be getting involved. That was the idea behind M.A.D. (mutually assured desire). But apparently, I was wrong. Guess what Alan did?

Absolutely nothing. The whole time he was clothed while Margo and I progressively…enjoyed ourselves. Was it weird? A little. Did it feel good? Definitely. I enjoyed being with her.

But then I’d look over at Alan and he was always just sitting there, staring, fully clothed. He looked like he was in a classroom. To be honest, it made me curious to know why he didn’t want to join in. What was wrong with him? With us?

And why didn’t he want me too?

Tags: adultfriendfinder, alan, MAD, margo

Setting The Ground Rules

Cindy Does Hollywood — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 20:04:03 +0000

One of the toughest things about playing with couples is setting the rules (and I’m not just talking about iming). Who can tough what? When? How long? It’s always an awkward conversation, and my newest couple, Alan and Margo, aren’t any different.

The weirdest thing? The have a rule they call M.A.D. It stands for mutually assured desire. These people are weird.

Basically, I can’t do anything- I sit there (naked) and wait to see what Alan or Margo does. If one of them kisses me, I can kiss back. Caresses me, I can caress back. If they do more? Then I can do more.

Problem is that this girl likes to play with what she wants when she wants. But I think I’ll have to make an exception tonight. Alan is beautiful and Margo has the most amazing abs I’ve ever seen on a woman. I just have to hope that we all go M.A.D. pretty quickly.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, alan, couples, MAD, margo

Iming With My New Couple

Cindy Does Hollywood — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 21:00:21 +0000

Hi all- as you know I messaged a new couple after the whole Sam affair. I think they liked what they saw, because they’ve continued writing me back. The only problem is that sometimes it’s a little bit confusing. Like on IM….see, they always write as one person (they use one screenname). That makes talking dirty a little difficult (Mature Content After the Link- it is AdultFriendFinder, after all).

CindyDoesHwood79: i’m in my bedroom

couplingsfun: o really?

CindyDoesHwood79: getting ready4 bed.

couplingsfun: what r u wearing?

CindyDoesHwood79: not much

couplingsfun: u wanna cyber?

CindyDoesHwood79: glad you asked. im touching your breast.

couplingsfun: Oh. this is alan. margo went to the kitchen.

CindyDoesHwood79: sorry. then i’m kissing your neck.

couplingsfun: me too.

CindyDoesHwood79: touching your stomach with my tongue.

couplingsfun: mmm yeah.

CindyDoesHwood79: and now i’m unzipping your pants

CindyDoesHwood79: and pulling out your big

CindyDoesHwood79: throbbing

couplingsfun: Cindy?

CindyDoesHwood79: what?

couplingsfun: this is margo. alan went to cut his toenails.

CindyDoesHwood79: fine. your breast. your big throbbing breast.

This is why I prefer to do these things in person.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, confusion, couples, iming

The Aftermath of Ditching Sam

Cindy Does Hollywood — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:04:00 +0000

I think sometimes people think swinging is just this: parties, suntans, and fun. But the thing is that swinging can be so much more than that. It’s a chance to connect with people and have an amazing time. That’s why I dumped “Sam.” But at the same time, Sam decided to fight back.
He wrote me on AdultFriendFinder.

I understand where you’re coming from. But I have a job. You have to understand why I didn’t want you to blog about me. People don’t understand how we look at things. You can’t expect to change that. But I had a fun time with you. And you did too, didn’t you? Can you admit it?

Tonight I messaged somebody else. A couple. But I have to admit, I was thinking about “Sam” and Evian when I did it. Weird.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, blogging, couples, evian, honesty

Being Proud Of Who You Are

Cindy Does Hollywood — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 18:38:37 +0000

I’m a little confused. Isn’t part of being a swinger being open about yourself and your sexuality? That’s why I’m a little confused. Last time I blogged about my interlude with my new lover; I said I’d tell you more about him. But it turns out he doesn’t want me to…I’ll call him “Sam.” I wasn’t going to put Sam’s full name, or anything identifying about him. Just a few quirks (breakfast choice, and maybe a few other positions…). But he said he didn’t want to be identified too easily.

Sam, I have news for you- going on AdultFriendFinder isn’t an escape for me. It’s about being open and willing. I’m good looking enough that I could walk down the street and find someone to hook up with. I go online to find people who are open and excited about their choices.

Until you can accept that, you’ll be drinking your Evian alone.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, evian, honesty, profiles

Going Out For Drinks (of Water)

Cindy Does Hollywood — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 20:21:45 +0000

You know, there’s some tricky things about swinging. Like, for example, the fact that even though people can be very free in their choices in partners, sometimes they aren’t so free when it comes to other things. Like food. Or drinks. Or, well, anything. I had that happen to me last night when one of my AdultFriendFinder partners invited me out for drinks. Only later on do I find out that he actually doesn’t drink. Now, if he was a former alcoholic or at risk, I could understand. But when you invite a beautiful woman out for drinks, doesn’t that imply at least a beer? We went out to a relatively posh bar (I can’t remember the name), and ordered Evian. I was surprised.

But he paid for the Evian, which was just about enough for me. We had a much better time when we left the bar and went to his place. He didn’t drink there. But I think the sweating dehydrated us enough.

I’ll tell you more later- feel free to have a drink to calm you down.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, drinking, etiquette, evian

I’m Drowning in Messages!

Cindy Does Hollywood — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 17:19:02 +0000

You may remember I had a profile picture issue. Well, I decided to go with my lovely friend Victoria instead of visiting the Republic. Even when Banana Republic tries to look sexy, they end up looking wayyy too serious. Well, I made the right choice- when I woke up this morning, I already had five messages.

So now I have to do a little weeding (a girl can only take so much, you know). Based on subject lines alone, I don’t know what I should go with. When you’re on AdultFriendFinder, do you want someone who writes “I’ll bring the whipped cream” or somebody who says “You have beautiful eyes.” I’m not sure yet, so I’m responding to both of them. If this keeps going though, I’m going to have to develop a real system to bat away all the boys and girls. I could flip a coin. But if anyone writes something particularly lewd….

Well, I’ll write back to them first.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, lingerie, messages, profiles

What to Wear (So I Can Take it Off Later)

Cindy Does Hollywood — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 19:01:01 +0000

Yeah….I love wearing clothes that make me look good. Give me something that will show off what I’ve worked for (or paid for) and I’ll be happy in it. But I’m not sure what to wear in my AdultFriendFinder pic. What will pay off more- showing skin? Or making them see it in person?On other sites, I’ve always worn some sort of sexy lingerie, but I’m starting to wonder if the innocent girl isn’t a better outfit for my online dating profile. After all, it’s the guys who like innocent girls who are the kinkiest, right? Today I’m going to go to two stores- Victoria’s Secret and Banana Republic. Which one should I spend more at? If your clothes are going to end up on the floor, you still want them to look good, don’t you?

Stay warm while I’m gone.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, innocent, lingerie

Introductions: The Safe Word is “Taxes”

Cindy Does Hollywood — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 21:47:37 +0000

Sooooo….I’m just going to ask- do you know about safe words? You know, it’s when you’re in the middle of doing something…interesting…and you want your partner to stop. Like, immediately. Well, I’ve decided to use my introduction to propose that safe words be turn offs. What better safe word than “Your Mother”? Everything stops and you’re so disgusted you don’t even mind that you aren’t doing….interesting things anymore.

I’m Cindy and I live in LA (no, this is not the secret diary of Cameron Diaz. See, unlike her, I can actually read.). You can probably tell by my name that I don’t have a lot of sexual hangups (though I’ve been tied up a few times). I’ve been active as a swinger for a few years and I love it. You meet amazing people, you hear great stories, and you feel damn good. I’m not hung up on sex stuff or a bunch of categories (straight, bi, gay, whatever). I just like having fun.

So yeah, I use AdultFriendFinder most of the time, though I’ve tried Craigslist and Match, I like the real deal best. I’ll be blogging about what I love about it (hint: the sex). And no, I won’t post my picture here, but I can tell you that I’m about 5′9, dirty blonde hair, and I wear heels all the time.

Alright, I’m out. Insert your own safe word if you can’t stop reading. I’d suggest “homework.” But maybe you like that .

Tags: adultfriendfinder, heels, homework, introductions, your mother

Online Dating Reviews

The Brain — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 02:07:07 +0000

More online dating reviews are coming soon. Until then, check out our online dating tips, online dating news, and online dating bloggers for the best updates on online dating.

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AdultFriendFinder: The Review

The Brain — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 06:51:05 +0000

The Site: AdultFriendFinder.com (Go There Now)

The Deal: There’s a reason it’s called AdultFriendFinder- this site delivers an adult experience. The web’s most popular sex and swinger community, AdultFriendFinder helps singles and couples find the perfect hook-up. While you may not find love on AdultFriendFinder, love’s probably not what you’re looking for when you go here- other sensations should be satisfying enough.

AdultFriendFinder’s Mission: They say their mission is “to help you get naughty.” We’ll be a little more delicate and say that AdultFriendFinder helps people make physical connections quickly. It’s the biggest player (yes, player) in the market, and that brings a few advantages, including comprehensive geographic reach as well as an ability to add great new features including private calls and webcam chats.

It’s easy to focus on AdultFriendFinder’s sexy profile, but it’s important to look at its business profile too: the parent company has been valued at over a billion dollars. For you, that means that despite the risque nature of the site, you can expect a safe, reliable experience with people who know about customer service, value, and respect.

Who It’s For: Adults. And that’s the only restriction. You’ll find hot girls, sexy guys, and everything in between. Swinger couples, swinger men, swinger women, Black swingers, Asian swingers, Hispanic swingers, Gay swingers, Lesbian swingers, and, well, the list goes on. Anyone looking for a great- and sexual- time can find it on AdultFriendFinder.

The Price: AdultFriendFinder realizes that people like to watch- so it lets them. Anybody can join free and post a profile. It’s free to browse possible hookups too. Upgrading lets users check out profiles, blog, use a webcam, email, and chat with potential lovers.

The Bottom Line: AdultFriendFinder is not for everybody- but if you’re looking for an adult experience of any flavor, this site is the place to find it. There’s lots of hot girls and guys looking for a fun time- AdultFriendFinder gets you one step closer to living the fantasy.

Tags: adultfriendfinder, review

An Introduction: Online Dating For Beginners

The Brain — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 17:31:51 +0000

Online Dating: Dive Right In

Remember the first time you went off the high dive? You thought everyone was watching you as you stood there, your toes gripping the edge of the board, trying to decide whether or not to take the plunge. Well, we know that online dating can be a similar situation. And we’re here to tell you to dive right in! But first, we’d like to teach you how to swim in the online dating pool.

Choosing the Right Online Dating Service

There’s a wide range of different services that cater to your personality and goals- Match, eHarmony, OKCupid, Singlesnet, True, and yes, AdultFriendFinder all offer different things for their users (to find the right one, we recommend checking out our own online dating reviews). Learn more about the possibilities and give a new site a try. In fact, most of these services provide free trials, and some like OKCupid are always free. These services want you to dip a toe in the water, so go ahead, sign up, and find the ones that are right for you.

Personality Matching: How You Find Potential Dates

Obviously, each site is different- eHarmony will give you a complex compatibility test, while Singlesnet will get you signed up withing 30 seconds (here’s our primer on online dating questionnaires). But, basically, all the sites mash up the hard facts with your unique personality. You’ll be shown people who are your preferred age, gender, and location no matter what. Then it gets interesting. Personality matching will help pair you with the type of person that you might have fun with. It’s both a science and an art- and it’s up to you to experiment and find the person that works for you.

My Profile: Making A Great First Impression

When you’re online, you’ll create a representation of yourself (check out our tips for creating a great online dating profile). It’s a rundown of what you’re like, who you are, and who you’re looking for. Potential dates will look at it to get a feel for your personality and to see if you’re a Match. It’s important to keep your profile fun, flirty, and most importantly, honest. This is your first impression for a potential date, so you want it to be an honest one.

Messaging: What’s a Wink?

Each dating site will provide a mix of different ways to start flirting. Some use “winks”, others have live chatting, and some even have video. The differences between services aren’t important, however- the key thing to remember is that you’re here to flirt and have fun. Messaging is a way to reach out and show a new person how cool you are- have fun doing it!

There are a couple of tips to remember as you get started. First, keep it casual- messaging too much could be too aggressive for potential dates. So always have a laid back approach to your replies (just as you would with a phone call). Secondly, be careful with your real contact information (e-mail, phone, etc). You should give that info out eventually, but don’t open with it- you have to make sure you’re speaking to a cool, safe person first (You can also check out our tips to read more about how to learn to flirt online).

That First Cup of Coffee: Meeting In the Real World

If there are sparks, you’ll want to leave the keyboard for your first real date.

How do you set up the big first date? Simple- just ask. Once you determine a time for you and your date to meet, you’ll be set. A public place is best for that first interlude. Meet and then, once you’ve gotten to know the person better, decide where to go from there. You’re well on your way to finding a new relationship.

The Rest of It: What To Do Now?

After that first date, it’s all up to you. You may want to reunite for a second date, find a new person, or even try a different service. Whatever you do, you’ve done the hardest part- you’ve jumped off the high dive. And you can go ahead and admit it- now that you’ve taken the plunge, it feels pretty good.

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