I’ve been dealing with my curiosity about Alan all too long. Fortunately, I don’t have to do it any longer. When I checked AdultFriendFinder today, I found that he’d written me a note. Read the rest of this entry →
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When I woke up this morning (alone), I started thinking about Alan again. Why hadn’t he joined in with Margo and I? Didn’t it look fun enough for him? Didn’t I look good enough for him? I stood in front of the mirror and pinched the fat on my hips. I turned around. I looked good enough… Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: adultfriendfinder, alan, MAD, margo
Hmm. Interesting. I thought that when Alan and Margo and I set ground rules, it meant that we’d all be getting involved. That was the idea behind M.A.D. (mutually assured desire). But apparently, I was wrong. Guess what Alan did? Read the rest of this entry →
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One of the toughest things about playing with couples is setting the rules (and I’m not just talking about iming). Who can tough what? When? How long? It’s always an awkward conversation, and my newest couple, Alan and Margo, aren’t any different.
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Hi all- as you know I messaged a new couple after the whole Sam affair. I think they liked what they saw, because they’ve continued writing me back. The only problem is that sometimes it’s a little bit confusing. Like on IM….see, they always write as one person (they use one screenname). That makes talking dirty a little difficult (Mature Content After the Link- it is AdultFriendFinder, after all). Read the rest of this entry →
Tags: adultfriendfinder, confusion, couples, iming
I think sometimes people think swinging is just this: parties, suntans, and fun. But the thing is that swinging can be so much more than that. It’s a chance to connect with people and have an amazing time. That’s why I dumped “Sam.” But at the same time, Sam decided to fight back.
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Tags: adultfriendfinder, blogging, couples, evian, honesty
I’m a little confused. Isn’t part of being a swinger being open about yourself and your sexuality? That’s why I’m a little confused. Last time I blogged about my interlude with my new lover; I said I’d tell you more about him. But it turns out he doesn’t want me to… Read the rest of this entry →
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You know, there’s some tricky things about swinging. Like, for example, the fact that even though people can be very free in their choices in partners, sometimes they aren’t so free when it comes to other things. Like food. Or drinks. Or, well, anything. I had that happen to me last night when one of my AdultFriendFinder partners invited me out for drinks. Read the rest of this entry →
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You may remember I had a profile picture issue. Well, I decided to go with my lovely friend Victoria instead of visiting the Republic. Even when Banana Republic tries to look sexy, they end up looking wayyy too serious. Well, I made the right choice- when I woke up this morning, I already had five messages.
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Yeah….I love wearing clothes that make me look good. Give me something that will show off what I’ve worked for (or paid for) and I’ll be happy in it. But I’m not sure what to wear in my AdultFriendFinder pic. What will pay off more- showing skin? Or making them see it in person? Read the rest of this entry →
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Sooooo….I’m just going to ask- do you know about safe words? You know, it’s when you’re in the middle of doing something…interesting…and you want your partner to stop. Like, immediately. Well, I’ve decided to use my introduction to propose that safe words be turn offs. What better safe word than “Your Mother”? Everything stops and you’re so disgusted you don’t even mind that you aren’t doing….interesting things anymore.
Tags: adultfriendfinder, heels, homework, introductions, your mother
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The Site: AdultFriendFinder.com (Go There Now)
The Deal: There’s a reason it’s called AdultFriendFinder- this site delivers an adult experience. The web’s most popular sex and swinger community, AdultFriendFinder helps singles and couples find the perfect hook-up. While you may not find love on AdultFriendFinder, love’s probably not what you’re looking for when you go here- other sensations should be satisfying enough.
AdultFriendFinder’s Mission: They say their mission is “to help you get naughty.” We’ll be a little more delicate and say that AdultFriendFinder helps people make physical connections quickly. It’s the biggest player (yes, player) in the market, and that brings a few advantages, including comprehensive geographic reach as well as an ability to add great new features including private calls and webcam chats.
It’s easy to focus on AdultFriendFinder’s sexy profile, but it’s important to look at its business profile too: the parent company has been valued at over a billion dollars. For you, that means that despite the risque nature of the site, you can expect a safe, reliable experience with people who know about customer service, value, and respect.
Who It’s For: Adults. And that’s the only restriction. You’ll find hot girls, sexy guys, and everything in between. Swinger couples, swinger men, swinger women, Black swingers, Asian swingers, Hispanic swingers, Gay swingers, Lesbian swingers, and, well, the list goes on. Anyone looking for a great- and sexual- time can find it on AdultFriendFinder.
The Price: AdultFriendFinder realizes that people like to watch- so it lets them. Anybody can join free and post a profile. It’s free to browse possible hookups too. Upgrading lets users check out profiles, blog, use a webcam, email, and chat with potential lovers.
The Bottom Line: AdultFriendFinder is not for everybody- but if you’re looking for an adult experience of any flavor, this site is the place to find it. There’s lots of hot girls and guys looking for a fun time- AdultFriendFinder gets you one step closer to living the fantasy.
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Online Dating: Dive Right In
Remember the first time you went off the high dive? You thought everyone was watching you as you stood there, your toes gripping the edge of the board, trying to decide whether or not to take the plunge. Well, we know that online dating can be a similar situation. And we’re here to tell you to dive right in! But first, we’d like to teach you how to swim in the online dating pool.
Choosing the Right Online Dating Service
There’s a wide range of different services that cater to your personality and goals- Match, eHarmony, OKCupid, Singlesnet, True, and yes, AdultFriendFinder all offer different things for their users (to find the right one, we recommend checking out our own online dating reviews). Learn more about the possibilities and give a new site a try. In fact, most of these services provide free trials, and some like OKCupid are always free. These services want you to dip a toe in the water, so go ahead, sign up, and find the ones that are right for you.
Personality Matching: How You Find Potential Dates
Obviously, each site is different- eHarmony will give you a complex compatibility test, while Singlesnet will get you signed up withing 30 seconds (here’s our primer on online dating questionnaires). But, basically, all the sites mash up the hard facts with your unique personality. You’ll be shown people who are your preferred age, gender, and location no matter what. Then it gets interesting. Personality matching will help pair you with the type of person that you might have fun with. It’s both a science and an art- and it’s up to you to experiment and find the person that works for you.
My Profile: Making A Great First Impression
When you’re online, you’ll create a representation of yourself (check out our tips for creating a great online dating profile). It’s a rundown of what you’re like, who you are, and who you’re looking for. Potential dates will look at it to get a feel for your personality and to see if you’re a Match. It’s important to keep your profile fun, flirty, and most importantly, honest. This is your first impression for a potential date, so you want it to be an honest one.
Messaging: What’s a Wink?
Each dating site will provide a mix of different ways to start flirting. Some use “winks”, others have live chatting, and some even have video. The differences between services aren’t important, however- the key thing to remember is that you’re here to flirt and have fun. Messaging is a way to reach out and show a new person how cool you are- have fun doing it!
There are a couple of tips to remember as you get started. First, keep it casual- messaging too much could be too aggressive for potential dates. So always have a laid back approach to your replies (just as you would with a phone call). Secondly, be careful with your real contact information (e-mail, phone, etc). You should give that info out eventually, but don’t open with it- you have to make sure you’re speaking to a cool, safe person first (You can also check out our tips to read more about how to learn to flirt online).
That First Cup of Coffee: Meeting In the Real World
If there are sparks, you’ll want to leave the keyboard for your first real date.
How do you set up the big first date? Simple- just ask. Once you determine a time for you and your date to meet, you’ll be set. A public place is best for that first interlude. Meet and then, once you’ve gotten to know the person better, decide where to go from there. You’re well on your way to finding a new relationship.
The Rest of It: What To Do Now?
After that first date, it’s all up to you. You may want to reunite for a second date, find a new person, or even try a different service. Whatever you do, you’ve done the hardest part- you’ve jumped off the high dive. And you can go ahead and admit it- now that you’ve taken the plunge, it feels pretty good.
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